I thought that labels ruin our relationships no matter what it is friendship, relationship or any bond. And that is the reason why relations start to fade away. When two people are with each, in the beginning they enjoy each others company, they have fun, the live, they laugh and all but as the grow closer they start to name their relation and thats where most people go wrong. Because when they are with each other they love each other without any obligations, without any rules or worries but just as they become something they bring out a long list of wha to do and what not to do and then they want other person to be all check marked on that list and thats where they start judging each other, criticizing each other and blame, doubt, sadness, hurt, all this come in and slowly they start to forget why they liked each other, the list of “perfect person” become so much involved in their brain that it surpasses their heart and the love they had got buried away somewhere and they start to drift apart. And this same rule applies to every relation in the world even if its parental, platonic or romantic. 

but truth is this that:

"Labels aren’t always the problem—it’s what we attach to them."

This means that simply calling someone your best friend, boyfriend, partner, daughter, etc. isn’t what damages the relationship. The damage happens when we start attaching too many expectations, assumptions, or conditions to that label.

 Labels can be good. Here’s how:

  1. Security & Belonging:

    • If you and someone call each other “best friends,” it can make you feel safe—like you belong in each other’s lives.

    • It’s a shared acknowledgment that you matter to each other deeply.

  2. Clarity:

    • Calling someone a “partner” helps define your emotional commitment.

    • It can create a mutual understanding—you’re not just casually talking; you’re building something real together.

  3. Emotional Intimacy:

    • When used healthily, labels help people open up and feel closer, because they know the bond has a name, a shape, a meaning.

But the problem starts when we attach too much to the label, like:

  1. Unrealistic Expectations:

    • “You’re my best friend, so you must always be available for me.”

    • “You’re my boyfriend, so you should text me 10 times a day.”

  2. Perfection Pressure:

    • We start believing that the person now has to act a certain perfect way all the time because of their role.

  3. Rigid Behavior Rules:

    • Instead of flowing naturally, the bond becomes about checking boxes.

    • Love turns into performance—“Am I being the perfect friend/partner/child?”

 So, What’s the Better Way?